Question by Johnny Rocket: Would should I write in a “goodbye” letter to my ex girlfriend?
so, we were together for a year, and shared a really nice relationship that was gradually getting more and more intimate, and strong…
Out of the blue, she broke up with me citing reasons like “well, i need to get my life in order, pay my debts, get back in school, and also this relationship is a bit too much for me right now, i want to go back to being free…etc”.
So, i respected that. We had an altercation at a club about 3 days afterwards, where we said mean things to one another, with me being the drunker and more insolent one, and pretty much resulted in her texting me the next morning “Dont ever talk to me again, you blew any chance you had of me coming back”.
I left her alone…and just this weekend was my birthday. I got a text from her RIGHT AT MIDNIGHT saying “i know i shouldnt text you, but Happy Bday!”
Im trying not to look too far into it…but something tells me that since it came exactlly at midnight, theres something to it…
Heres my question…
Im still very much in love with her, and I have been really sad about the breakup…Ive been keeping busy, etc to try and take my mind of it, but as we all might know…NOTHING can completely take your mind of it.
SO, I want to leave a note on her car pretty much apologizing for the mean things i said at the club, and sort of trying to set the tone to carry on with good terms, and not have an akward “does he/she hate me?” dynamic…
what would be good to include in the letter?
I made a “rough draft” which includes information about how im still not over her, and do love her, but respect her choice to move on… but of course in more detail…
should i even write that? Should i just be casual and cool? She’s a nice girl, and i know she has no malicious intent..so I do want to set it straight with her…
is it ok to let her know im not over her? I do plan on keeping my distance, but i feel a letter would help me get it off my chest and help with closure…i have no intentions of trying to convince her to get back with me..im really going to move on, but not before closing this properly…and this letter would just help me feel like i got my “last words” in before i proceed.
Answer by Nicholas Y
dude no. man up to the challenge. you committed, and if your going to get out, your going to have to do it the hard way. if your in person, you can say everything you want to with no limitations, and answer any questions the girl might say. but- after your done talking to her, just hand her a letter she can always remember you by. so really you ended things with talking, but she will always have the letter too. good huh?
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www.thebestbreakupadvice.com It is OK if your ex is dating someone else. It is actually a good sign. If your ex is willing to date that could mean they are over the break up and they are willing to date again. If you are supportive of who your ex dates your ex will tell you about their date and let you know if they do not like them anymore. This will give you a chance to get back with them.
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